It doesn’t mean problems are any less difficult, just we’re less likely to be daunted by them.
How we think about and deal with problems can depend on how we’re feeling at that moment. Confidence and self-esteem levels make a big difference, but experience plays its part too.
Even if there’s not much we can do to solve a problem, simply trying to address it can make things a bit better. Whether it’s for yourself, or to help someone else, we’ve put together some strategies to help make a problem more manageable.
Problem solving usually helps find solutions, but sometimes we still can’t fix the situation. If you’ve tried a number of things and none of them have worked, it might be worth working on a coping strategy.
Coping strategies can help us accept situations beyond our control. They can enable us feel better even when the problem still exists.
Problems are a normal part of life, and we usually feel better when we do something about them instead of just dwelling on them. But, if you can’t solve the problem, it’s helpful to change the way you think about it – to practice acceptance and move on with life in a positive way.
Making tough, or potentially life-changing decisions isn’t easy. Trying to help someone else with a decision they’re considering can be even harder. If possible try to put aside your own preferences and judgements and try to be as objective as possible.
If you’re stressed, excited or anxious, it’s much harder to make a good decision. The more emotional you are about an issue, the more likely you are to make an impulsive decision that may not work out. Try to keep a clear head when you’re making important decisions.
Don’t rush your decision if you can help it. Once you’ve made a choice, it can be wise to hold off on acting straight away also.
If something seems exciting it can be easy to gloss over any possible risks. It can helps to write down a list of the pros and cons for the outcome of each choice.
It can help you make a decision. But they can change over time, so it can be worth while re-visiting decisions, especially for longer-term plans or choices.
There can be different possible outcomes to a decision. They’re not all obvious so it’s worth considering what else could happen and if you’re ok with that too.
Talk to people you trust about the potential consequences of your decision, particularly people who’ve been in similar situations.
It’s normal to feel overwhelmed by having to make a decision. Keeping track of how you feel can help you stay focused and allow you to make a more considered choice.
If you’re worried about someone’s reaction then think about how you’ll manage the situation before telling them. If the decision affects them personally you might want to give them advance warning of what you’re going to do.
Once you’ve made your decision, you might feel pressure to backtrack on it, perhaps from people who don’t agree with you. Take their views on board and if there’s merit in their arguments, consider their advice. However, if the decision still feels right to you, stick to it. The important thing is making the choice that’s right for you.