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Leaving home

From working out your finances to telling your family to choosing who to live with, leaving home is a big deal.

blue and yellow suitcasesMoving out of the house you grew up in is something that a lot of people (but not everyone) does eventually. If you’re thinking about it, be prepared.

It happens at different ages for different people, depending on what makes sense.

When people move out of home

Some people move out fairly young for college or work and some stay in their family home for their whole lives.

Some of us can’t wait for independence, and some of us want to hang on to those home-cooked dinners for as long as we can.

If, and when, you start thinking about moving out, consider why you’re doing it and how it’s going to work.

Reasons for leaving home

There are loads of reasons why people move out. Having a tough time with your parents can be a big factor for some people

The thought of leaving can seem easier than working things out. Sometimes young people have to move out because for their parents it can seem easier than resolving things.

Others move away from home in order to go to school, to college or to find a job.

Before making the decision

When you begin to plan leaving home, think about the consequences and your needs.

What if my parents don’t want me to move out?

Some families believe their children should only move out when they’re married or have their own property.

These parents can feel rejected or even embarrassed about what other people think when their children leave home.

Talk to your parents or guardians about why you want to move out. If there is conflict, try to resolve it by talking about your feelings together.

Read more about dealing with conflict with parents or guardians.

Do I have somewhere safe to live?

If you’re over 18 years-old and have a stable income, you can probably afford to move into shared accommodation with friends or rent your own place.

If you’re under 18 years-old, you may find that it’s difficult to rent a house or sign a lease because of your age.

Check with the Private Residential Tenancy Board ( an organisation set up by the government to register tenancies or with your local authority for more details.

If you’re leaving home because of family conflict or abuse, there could be support services available.

Ring a local community welfare office or the Health Service Executive ( to find out more about services available in your area.

Do I have enough money?

Work out a budget to see how much money you need each week to pay rent and buy what you need.

If you don’t have a job or are still studying you may be eligible for social security payments. Contact your nearest local social welfare office to find out what benefits you are eligible for.

If you’re working you might also be eligible for tax relief. Contact your local Revenue office to find out.

This article was last reviewed on 03 May 2017

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