Helping you get through tough times

Talking to a friend

Your friends are often really good people to talk to when you’re having a tough time. You might find out they’ve been through similar stuff themselves. Even if they haven’t, they can still listen and understand.

Gingerbread people by Nikki PaulieSome friends might be better at this than others and figuring out the right person to talk to can be hard.

Ask yourself these questions:

  • Can I trust them not to talk to other people when I don’t want them to?
  • Will they give me a hard time? Will they make me more upset?
  • Can they help or find someone to help?
  • Do I want to talk to someone who is not involved in the situation?

Helping you find support

Some of your friends might have spoken to someone like a counsellor, so they might be able to help you find someone to talk to and explain what it’s like. That said, everyone’s different and the person who helped your friend might not be right for you. If you talk to a counsellor and it doesn’t feel right, try another one, or another service. You’ll find someone you’re comfortable with.

Other people can help too

If your friends are busy or tired, or it is 3 o’clock in the morning, there are people you can talk to anytime at Childline 1800 66 66 66 (free phone) or Samaritans 116 123 (free-call). They are there 24 hours a day and happy to talk to you about life, the universe and everything. You can also try writing down what is swirling around in your head or troubling you.

More information

Childline and Samaritans should be able to help you with some numbers in your local area. You can also read about other services here, especially in face-to-face help.

Or try for services in your area, the phone book or on Golden Pages online .

This article was last reviewed on 03 May 2017

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