Suffering from summer FOMO?
Yay! Summer is finally here but it’s not all sunshine and ice-cream. Summer can be the worst time for suffering from FOMO (fear of missing out). When it seems like everyone is going to festivals, on J1’s, in dream internships or backpacking through Thailand it can make us feel like we are missing out and not getting the most out of our summer.
We all feel like this from time-to-time but it’s important to not let these thoughts take over.
It’s OK to move at your own pace
It’s ok not to do what other people your age may be doing throughout the summer. Life is not a contest, and nobody is keeping score. Your time will come but it’s important that we all move at our own pace. We all have different experiences at different times and that is normal.
What makes you happy
Happiness is not a destination it’s a journey and more than that it’s a skill. Yes, a dream holiday could certainly help in the short term but that doesn’t mean we have to be miserable if we are spending the summer at home. Filling your days with things that make you happy instead of catching up with what others are doing can make all the difference. Listening to music, catching up on some reading, visiting friends and relatives, practicing an old hobby. There is no right or wrong way to spend your summer focus on things that can make you feel content.
What do I want?
Ask your-self what you want to achieve? rather than stressing about what you think you should be doing. With some more free time in summer you could learn a new skill, take up a new hobby, invest in your relationships and practice some self-care. Time invested in yourself is never time wasted. This article on setting achievable goals lays out some practical steps to help you reach any goal.
Don’t compare your behind the scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel. Whether on social media or in real life nobody is bragging about doing their laundry or binge-watching love island. Even when it seems like everyone around us is having a great time we don’t know how they are feeling inside or what is going on for them.
Build yourself up
FOMO is worse when we are feeling insecure or not confident in ourselves. Be mindful of this and spend some time challenging negative thoughts. There are so many thinking errors and false comparisons we can make when we are feeling low. This article on self-talk has some great tips in tackling some of these.
Be kind to yourself
Practice some self-care and be kind to yourself. Whether it’s kicking a ball around, a walk, a bubble bath, journaling or yoga, practicing some self-care will help you feel better. When we treat ourselves with compassion it helps us to realise how valuable we really are.