Avoid the blues if you’re single this Valentine’s Day
Valentines Day is a annual event that fill many of us singletons with dread.
Austerity January has just ended and shops have replaced half price Christmas chocolates with pink choc boxes, fluffy teddies with hearts and soppy Valentine’s cards.
If you’re not in a relationship, it can just reinforce feelings of something being wrong with you. Having some fantastic friends, getting great grades at school or college, or excelling at work can seem insignificant to your single status.
Not having that perfect valentine’s date ca make us forget there are many great things about being single.
Meeting new people
Being single doesn’t mean you can’t go on dates or enjoy meeting new people. You can take advantage of socialising to gett a clearer idea of what kind of person you might eventually want to be in a relationship with.
But don’t let all nights out become about meeting the right person. Enjoy being with friends and having fun.
Fools rush in
Desperately not wanting to be alone can interfere with our better judgement. It can leave us settling for relationships that ultimately are not good for us, or the other person. A bad relationship can damage self-esteem leave you feeling far worse.
Show yourself some love
Being single gives you the space to explore who you are as person. Learning to love yourself can be hard and for many people it doesn’t come easily.
Confidence is an extremely attractive quality. Knowing and being content with who you are is a great mentality to take into all aspect of your life. Often potential dates come along when we stop focusing all our efforts on finding them.
Try not to look at yourself as being ‘single’. Focus your energy on things you enjoy and people who make you feel good, rather then on trying to find a relationship.
See any potential partner as an extension of your happiness, something you can share, rather than someone to complete you.