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Talking about a resolution

Destined for a month of eating porridge and home-made soup, in an effort to be “healthy”? Or, maybe it’s a case of budgeting as you don’t have after all Christmas parties and present buying?

Notepad with penNew Year’s resolutions

Maybe you’re one of many with a list of resolutions as long as your arm.

Does your list look anything like this?

  • Eat healthily
  • Get fit
  • Run – couch to … well the shops and back to start with
  • Call your mum more often
  • No booze Drink in moderation
  • Be creative
  • Work towards your dream goal of…
  • Eh, work out what your dream goal is.

Well, these are all noble pursuits, for sure. Here, on 8 January, how are they working out for you?

Destined to fail

It is nice to view New Year with the notion of a new start and new beginnings. Being optimistic about the year ahead and new possibilities is a positive thing.

But, if you always have a list, and if you see some repeat offenders, are you setting yourself up to fail?

Common list

Take the list above – a fairly generic one. There are far too many things to start with. Some of them are even a bit vague and therefore not helpful. Say eat healthily for example, what does that actually mean?

Don’t eat anything that your grandma wouldn’t recognise as food, seems to be the current wisdom. Even still, that gives you a free pass to live on roast potatoes and eat jam with a spoon.

Smart goal setting

To get anywhere with new resolutions you need be smart about how you set your goals. This makes it easier to stick to, or change them if they’re not working.

In an article on successful resolutions, Time magazine said that three things are necessary to keep going long-term.

  • Autonomy – you need to control what you’re doing
  • Competence – you have some success and this increases the more you do it
  • Relatedness – it’s easier if you share the success with other people.

Whatever your goal is, if you try to work these elements in it might be easier to motivate yourself over time. Find out more about smart goal setting.

Be fair to yourself

There’s no point in setting yourself up for failure. January is hard enough being broke and force fed photos on social media from people holidaying in Thailand and Australia.

You could do without feeling bad about not keeping up your new year resolutions, so be a bit more strategic and give yourself a shot.

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