Working on self-esteem to the tunes of Macklemore & Ryan Lewis
If you haven’t seen their video to Irish fans watch it here. Brings a tear, and a puffed up sense of national pride, no?
Pride, identity, self-esteem and learning to think for yourself come out so strongly in their songs – all themes right up our alley.
Part of growing up is identifying people we admire and want to be like. Aside from people we actually know, we tend to focus most of our energy on following people in the public eye.
They’re role models to us, whether they want to be or not.
“Wanted to be him
I wanted to be that guy” Wing$
Finding your voice
But there’s a limit. We’ve all got our own path and finding your own voice and being able to express it is largely steeped in good self-esteem.
This seems obvious, but we can all have a negative inner voice telling us we’re not good enough and it gets in the way. Or, we unhelpfully compare ourselves to people in ways that hold us back from being ourselves.
We’re also continuously bombarded with messages that play on this, making us feel inadequate or not good enough.
“I wanted to be cool
I wanted to fit in” Wing$
Wanting to fit in
The reason these messages work is because these feelings are universal, and luckily enough they come with a solution; if we buy stuff we’ll fit in!
Changing our appearance will make us feel better. Wearing the most fashionable runners will help us fit in. Drinking a certain drink or having a certain phone or copying some celebrities’ behaviour – all of these tell the world what we’re all about, right?
“I’m a cool kid
I’m an individual; yeah
But I’m part of a movement
My movement told me to be part of movement, and I consumed it” Wing$
Sense of self
Nothing against having stuff per se, or role models, but we need to look beyond it for our own identities and our own sense of who we are.
It takes a bit of work, but we can all work at turning our negative inner voice into a positive one that gives us the confidence to be ourselves. Working on our self-esteem helps us take all those messages of what to wear/drink/drive with a pinch of salt.
“Now I see it’s just another pair of shoes” Wing$
“Having the same one as six other people in this club is a hell don’t” Thrift shop
Working on self-esteem
But it’s up to us. Good self-esteem can take some work. Not cockiness or bravado, but a quiet self-assuredness helps you stand out of the crowd comfortably.
So instead of buying lots of stuff to make us feel better, maybe it’s:
“Time to look at the man in the mirror until I can learn to love him”. Make the money
We may not think it sometimes, but we all have a right to lead happy lives and get the best we can out of them. Shrugging off what we think we should be doing and working on our own inner voice goes a long way to living the life you want.
“Raise those hands, this is our party
We came here to live life like nobody was watching”. Can’t hold us