Now it’s autumn, your college-bound mates have new things to focus on. If you’re not studying then you might feel left out. Especially if you’re not working, or don’t have plans for this year.
At a loose end?
Maybe you’re still trying to figure out what to do – that’s OK too. If there’s ever a time to mull over what to do next, this is it. It isn’t a waste of time. Having said that, it’s probably not a good idea to sit at home playing GTA5 all day, every day.
There’s loads you can do and learn if you’re taking some time out:
- volunteering – get a feel for work in the area you think you’d like to work in
- working abroad – maybe consider things like au-pair work, especially good for learning a language
- getting other skills/qualifications – such as your driving licence or a TEFL course
- taking an evening course in something you’re interested in.
As our lives evolve it’s normal for our friendships to also. But this doesn’t have to be a bad thing.
It might seem like your friends are off making loads of new friends in college, but there’s no reason you can’t as well. There are clubs and societies for everything nowadays. You don’t know who you’ll get to know, or what direction your life might take.
Keep in touch
That doesn’t mean you have to leave your old friends behind. There just might need to be a bit more effort put into the friendship. Nowadays it’s so easy to text, call, skype or whatever, so there’s no need for it to become a case of ‘out of sight, out of mind’.
Besides, it may seem as if your friends are off having the time of their lives, but they could be struggling. They might appreciate your call.
Don’t be a bully
If you didn’t end up doing what you’d anticipated this autumn, try not to beat yourself up about it. Change is one thing that’s certain in life and there’s more than one pathway to any career or life choice.
Make sure to mind your mental health, take care of yourself and try not to take it all too seriously.