First round offers
This is hard when you’re seeing messages or status updates on Facebook from friends who have. Nevermind the parents’ grapevine, telling you what so ‘n’ so down the road got.
We’re kind of a broken record about this stuff, but not getting your first choice is not the end of the world. For some it’s a blessing in disguise.
As each day passes, it’ll get easier and easier to get some clarity about what to do next. Keep in mind, even if it feels like all your friends got their first choice, it’s just not possible that everyone in the country did, so you’re not alone! It’s been well documented that it’s particularly competitive this year and remember there’s still second and third rounds offers to go.
If you’re absolutely fixed on particular goal there’s more than one way to achieve it and may not have been well laid out to you in school. Look at the school leavers’ section to work out your options, from repeating to PLC courses, to taking the year out.
Making tough decisions
Maybe you threw something down as a first choice because you thought you’d never get it. Now you did and you’re not sure. You have a week to accept, so really weigh up the pro and cons about this. It’s not a good idea to take on something just because you feel you should.
Talk to someone
This is a huge transitional period in your life there’s no doubt about it so don’t shoulder the stress on your own. Try talking to a friend or family member about what you’re going through. Anyone who has been through this time will be able to help you put things in perspective.
Challenge and reset your expectations
Sometimes it can be helpful to re-think your own expectations. Ask yourself, “What would I suggest to a friend in this situation?” Sometimes expectations are only focused on one outcome, so if you don’t meet them you may feel like you’ve failed. As we’ve said, there are a number of ways to achieve a goal. Talk to someone you trust about what your different strategies might be.
One of the main concerns right now for people thinking about college is money. This worry is not likely to go away throughout college either. What you can afford influences what you decide to do, so find out all you can on about student grants and student loans. Read up on budgeting too, to try to start off with good habits.
Look out for yourself
Take some time out by doing something you usually enjoy this week. Even though you may not feel like it, exercising and eating well can help with this stressful time. Sometimes a change of sceenery can be helpful too. Give yourself permission to take a time out from all the talk about points and courses.