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Reflections after the death of Robin Williams

Two weeks ago saw the headlines dominated by varying degrees of bluntness and shock-factor regarding the death of Robin Williams.Robin William coutresy of anothercookieplease.com

While many merely stated the facts, the harsh reality of his suicide was viciously publicised by the likes of Alan Brazil’s blunt remarks live on BBC radio. Tabloid headlines mostly drew attention to the wrong details – the how, and not the why.

The morning after Williams’ death emerged, social media newsfeeds everywhere were littered with tributes, messages and statements referring to his most celebrated roles, declarations of sadness, and references to lines such as “Oh Captain, my Captain”(Dead Poets’ Society), being used by people I never would have tabbed fans.

Global reaction

This global reaction only cemented the general feeling of loss that was felt by fans of Williams. Due to the nature of his death, it was felt by many more – these ranged from those who merely appreciated his films and were able to say ‘yes, he’s very good’, to those who have personal experiences with depression, suicide, and mental health problems.

As heartfelt as the quotes and tributes to Robin Williams are, and as much as they are wonderful homage to his talents, none of those characters would have existed as they do without the mind behind them. To say that nobody knows what’s going on inside another’s head is as huge an understatement.

I think the only good thing that can come out of this tragedy is that it has made more people aware of and more understanding of how destructive mental health problems can be.

Active reaction

The decision for a pop-up event to screen two of Williams’ films at such short notice was exactly the kind of active reaction that these situations call for.

This is happening all the time. Once it has happened, there is nothing anyone can do about it, let alone change about it. Instead of focusing on the negative and shocking elements of his death, the screenings celebrated the actor and his talents in the only way that seemed fit.

There were speeches from the mental health charities Pieta House and Headstrong before each film began, calling out for a more open-minded approach to dealing with mental health. Purely by addressing the huge crowd, they drew attention to the universality of these issues, and the importance of coming together to deal with them.

A beautiful celebration.

The two screenings of “Dead Poets Society” on Thursday 14 August, and “Good Will Hunting” on Saturday 17 August, I felt were a beautiful way to celebrate just one life that affected millions of people.

It was a strange feeling, sitting there and knowing that many of the people surrounding you had also grown up watching films such as “Jumanji”, “Mrs. Doubtfire”, “Patch Adams”, and “Flubber“, to name but a few.

Even stranger was to consider the confusing sense of communal loss that was felt at Williams’ death. None of us had known him, yet his life, work and struggles had touched so many people and were so relatable, that it felt almost as if we had.

Communication is key

Although something may be happening inside your head, there is no way for anyone else to know about it if you do not talk.

Talking is funny sometimes, because it’s the only medium humans have of communicating what’s in their heads. Often you can say things without realising you’re thinking them. Sometimes, you start to talk and things come out that you don’t even realise are in there.

This is why it’s so important. If you don’t know exactly what is bothering you, or how you could possibly solve something, even just explaining your situation to someone can often make the road seem a bit clearer.

Once the gate is opened and the thoughts come through, they’re finally out there. You can see them for what they really are, instead of a jumbled mush of worries and anxiety that seems impossible to solve.

However cheesy it may sound, talking is one of first steps on the road to recovery.

Faith

It takes a huge leap of faith to put your trust in someone and open up about things. Sometimes faith is exactly what you lack in tough times. Knowing yourself and your limits is key, and there is no quick fix.

Mental health, and minding it, is hugely important; it’s something that needs to be accepted as part of life instead of boxed into a doctor’s office never to be spoken about again.

Robin Williams’ death is a tragedy that cannot be changed or altered anymore. It has happened, and while tributes and sadness are a natural and fitting way to pay homage to him, the only positive that can come from it now is awareness, acceptance, and the encouragement to talk.

What can I do now?

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