Winning can sometimes be for losers
Life isn’t designed to be easy, but it should never be a slog. It should never be a process to be endured but an experience to be relished as much as possible. As someone who has experienced depression and bullying at school and at university, I’m a great believer in what tries to damage us ultimately makes us stronger.
The things which can sometimes seem like our greatest challenges can ultimately give us the greatest rewards, and help us realise the most important things in life. There is no challenge that cannot be conquered when you just maintain your inner strength and face it.
For every dark moment you are having, there will be so many more moments of light. For every person who says you can’t, there are so many people who love and care for you saying you can. When you feel like you’re losing at the race of life, just remember it doesn’t have to be that way life shouldn’t be about competition- because no one person is any better than any other.
It’s easy to feel unfortunate in these tough times but if you have a roof over your head, something to eat and clothes on your back, you are already one of the luckiest people alive. It may not seem like that but put your problems in perspective, they often can seem a little less daunting.
Living away from home
I’m currently living and working in the US, a place that has categorically opened up my eyes. It’s made me realise that far away fields often only appear green and the things I thought I could do without; constant contact with family, community and country, matter so much more to me now.
It’s helped me realise how much support I have – from practical support to emotional support, and when it’s not there, a void exists. So, when you need support, ask a teacher, talk to your folks, or contact Samaritans, there’s always someone to listen, who understands you and wants to help. I say this because it’s easy to feel helpless.
Everyone is obsessed with ‘winning’ these days. If it is the feeling that you are not ‘winning’ which is getting you down- then, please, just remember what really matters.
Instead, remember what does, like your family, your friends. If you feel like you’re “losing,” then just remember the billions of people less fortunate than you. On the days when you feel like you’re winning, then please remember how you felt today, and that others feel the same as you do.
Never be one of a number and never change who you are to fit in. I’ve tried and believe me it doesn’t work. If not getting to the top is what bringing you down, don’t forget, it’s lonely up on the top of the pyramid.
Believe me – the old saying ‘what’s for you wont pass you by’ is a great way to live your life. Whatever brings you to this site – please remember, there are people here and in your life, who want to help you in tough times. Pick up a phone, call round to a friend, ask to see a doctor, call in on a teacher or lecturer- even if you don’t really know them. They’ll be glad to help – you’ll be even gladder.
Make that change
Don’t be afraid to make the positive changes you need to make. I’ve moved schools because of bullying, and I’ve never looked back. Make that change! You’ll be glad you did.