Students all over Ireland will be receiving their Leaving Cert results next week.
Your son or daughter may receive:
Manage your reaction carefully. Work out how they feel and try to temper your own feelings right now. When you’re both ready you can work on the next steps, or any necessary solutions together.
Whatever their results are, your job as parent isn’t over yet (!) and your guidance and support are as important now as ever.
It’s kind of needless to say, if they get good results, celebrate and congratulate them. Let them know you’re proud of them. They did a great job.
Make sure they’re happy too and are not harboring any deep rooted expectations of doing even better. Some students put a lot of pressure on themselves so it’s good to check where they’re at.
If they don’t get the results they expected, hold back from offering your thoughts as to why this has happened.
Try not to make comparisons with others, and discourage your son or daughter from doing this, as this helps no one really.
There are a many different paths to the one destination. This is where your support and open-mindedness can really come into play. Together you can work out a solution, about what are the best next steps.
Take a look at the school leavers’ section we developed on ReachOut.com to outline all available to someone who has just gotten their results, from CAO, PLC courses, getting papers rechecked to repeating the Leaving Cert.
There are any number of reasons for this scenario. Stop and take these into consideration before you react.
It maybe very difficult to keep your opinion to yourself if you feel they genuinely did not put the work in, but even so they still maybe quite surprised and upset. The realisation that their peers may now be on a completely different path to them can be scary and upsetting.
If they never put the work in and just weren’t studious, this situation could be what turns them around and re-apply themselves by either repeating or exploring alternative PLC courses that cover subjects school never did.
Checkout the school leavers’ on ReachOut.com together for help with all the options they have now.
Check in with them to see how their friends did. Try to find the balance where you’re not encouraging them to make unfair comparisons with others, but just make sure they’re keeping in touch with friends who maybe very disappointed.
It’s an emotional time for young people and marks quite a milestone. We have the knowledge that it’s not the be-all and end-all, but it can be hard to see that when you’re in it.
Your support will really help through this time.