Leaving Cert results night and alcohol

So it will be a big night tomorrow night, no matter what results your son or daughter gets.

drinks2For the most part, plans have already been made to head to a nightclub or party to celebrate or commiserate the results.

Setting boundaries around alcohol

Even if your son or daughter is over 18 years-old, talk to them before they head out and set some boundaries around alcohol.

Make sure they know if they’re drinking to stick to one drink not to mix them and at all costs, avoid shots.

“Prinking”= pre-drinking

This is a big habit among young people in Ireland, drinking in someone’s house, or a field, barn wherever to consume cheaper drinks before going to a nightclub. Most people then have no idea how much they have consumed and can be way over the limit before they head anywhere and can be a recipe for uncontrollable drunkeness.

A good meal

Make sure they eat a substantial meal before going out so they are not drinking on an empty stomach.

Hydrate: with water!

Tell your son or daughter that it’s advisable to alternate alcoholic drinks with water, or make sure to drink water throughout the night.

Sticking together

It can be a highly emotional night and it can also get messy. Encourage them to stick with their friends and look out for each other.

Back-up plan

The combination of emotions, alcohol, all friends being out together can be quite overwhelming for some and no matter what goes on, someone will need looking after at some stage. If you can, let your son or daughter know that they can call you, WHATEVER happens.

In the unlikely situation that someone does get very sick or overwhelmed by the events, make sure they know they can call a trusted adult who can help so they don’t have to deal with it themselves.

Here’s hoping to results their happy with and great night!

Leaving Cert results, for parents

Students all over Ireland will be receiving their Leaving Cert results next week.

Youth Mental Health Ireland Exam StressAs a parent you’re looking at one of three situations if your son or daughter is getting their results and your reaction can be more important than you might think.

Your son or daughter may receive:

  • Good results, getting the marks they wanted or better
  • Not the results they wanted, with a poor indication of the they work they put in
  • Disappointing results.

Manage your reaction carefully. Work out how they feel and try to temper your own feelings right now. When you’re both ready you can work on the next steps, or any necessary solutions together.

Whatever their results are, your job as parent isn’t over yet (!) and your guidance and support are as important now as ever.

When the results are good

It’s kind of needless to say, if they get good results, celebrate and congratulate them. Let them know you’re proud of them. They did a great job.

Make sure they’re happy too and are not harboring any deep rooted expectations of doing even better. Some students put a lot of pressure on themselves so it’s good to check where they’re at.

Didn’t get the results they wanted

If they don’t get the results they expected, hold back from offering your thoughts as to why this has happened.

Try not to make comparisons with others, and discourage your son or daughter from doing this, as this helps no one really.

There are a many different paths to the one destination. This is where your support and open-mindedness can really come into play. Together you can work out a solution, about what are the best next steps.

Take a look at the school leavers’ section we developed on ReachOut.com to outline all available to someone who has just gotten their results, from CAO, PLC courses, getting papers rechecked to repeating the Leaving Cert.

Disappointing results

There are any number of reasons for this scenario. Stop and take these into consideration before you react.

It maybe very difficult to keep your opinion to yourself if you feel they genuinely did not put the work in, but even so they still maybe quite surprised and upset. The realisation that their peers may now be on a completely different path to them can be scary and upsetting.

If they never put the work in and just weren’t studious, this situation could be what turns them around and re-apply themselves by either repeating or exploring alternative PLC courses that cover subjects school never did.

Checkout the school leavers’ on ReachOut.com together for help with all the options they have now.

Check in with friends

Check in with them to see how their friends did. Try to find the balance where you’re not encouraging them to make unfair comparisons with others, but just make sure they’re keeping in touch with friends who maybe very disappointed.

It’s an emotional time for young people and marks quite a milestone. We have the knowledge that it’s not the be-all and end-all, but it can be hard to see that when you’re in it.

Your support will really help through this time.