Taking risks and pushing boundaries is common amongst teenagers and is a big part of growing up.
There are many reasons teenagers act this way, but as a parent you can assist by helping your son or daughter to develop positive ways and behaviours to take risks.
During adolescence teenagers can be focused on the reward they feel when they are admired by their friends, and the positive reinforcement they get by being included in a group of peers.
Friends and peers become incredibly important during the teenage years. This is why young people can become very distressed if they don’t have friends or feel socially rejected.
This increased focus on what their friends think of them occurs during a time when young people are learning self-regulation. These factors provide opportunities for risky behaviour to occur.
Your son or daughter’s friends and peers have a significant influence on their behaviour, and their need to fit in and be accepted. So, if their friends are inclined towards risk taking, it’s likely your son will be too.
It often isn’t until adulthood we are better able to make our decisions for ourselves we aren’t so heavily influenced by our friends and peers. Good self-esteem helps us make wiser decisions and also how to react to our peers.
Not all risk taking is negative. Positive risk taking occurs too and the rewards of positive risk taking are just as dopamine-inducing and a great way for teenagers to experience the natural and safer high.
Negative risks can have harmful consequences on a teenager’s health, safety and wellbeing. Generally teenagers like to push boundaries and take risks because the ‘reward’ often outweighs the consequences.
Some examples are of some negative risks that could be of concern:
Positive risk-taking is about learning new things and exploring unfamiliar territory. Going outside your comfort zone, like auditioning for a play or asking someone out are examples.
These risks are positive because, while they still create a feeling of uncertainty or fear, a new skill can be developed or there’s a possibility of a positive outcome. Positive risks can result in the same rewarding feeling as negative ones.
Encouraging your son or daughter to take positive risks is a good skill. They will then learn things about themselves and their abilities in a safe and rewarding way.