Why do I feel I attracted to people of the same sex?

While people often ask “why am I attracted to people of the same sex?”, people very rarely ask, “why am I attracted to people of the opposite sex?”

closet reflection One of the great things about human beings is that we are all different. Part of that difference is we’re all attracted to different people and things, without needing to find a cause.

Society often looks for a cause to something that is different so that it can be ‘fixed’. Being attracted to someone of the same sex is not something to be ‘fixed’, just as being attracted to someone of the opposite sex is not something to be ‘fixed’.

We live in a world that often fears difference, and equates different with wrong. This prejudice is the same as racism and other forms of discrimination.

Being attracted to people of the same sex is only part of who you are, and is not wrong.

I don’t fit a stereotype

Gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people, like all people, are diverse. They are all ages, come from all cultures and religions, and work in all professions.

Myths and stereotypes exist because of ignorance and assumptions. Some people fit the stereotypes and some don’t. Trust your feelings and be yourself.

There are many misunderstandings about sexuality and sex. We often hear and see stereotypes of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people.

Being gay, lesbian or bisexual is not defined by how you look, where you go or the job you do. It is defined by how you feel and who you are attracted to. Trust those feelings and be yourself. It’s OK to be gay!

More information

Call, email or drop into BeLonG To, a support service for young people aged 14-23 who are Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual or Transgender.

Acknowledgements

Text adapted from “You’re not alone”, a booklet written by the Gay and Lesbian counselling service (WA) and the WA AIDS council under the “Here for Life” sexuality project.

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