When someone pushes you away
When someone’s going through a tough time, they can act angry or withdrawn. If you try to help they might push you away. It can feel like their anger or lack of interest is aimed at you. In reality, they’re probably just upset and having a hard time managing their feelings.
It can be really difficult not to get upset when someone you care about seems to be shutting you out, but try not to take it personally. Chances are they’d appreciate some support but might not be ready to ask for it.
It might help to let them know that you’re around if they want to talk. Sometimes just knowing that there’s someone there who cares or even just someone to hang out with can be help enough.
Worried about someone’s safety?
If you’re concerned about a friend’s safety, it’s important that you talk to someone you trust. This could be a counsellor, doctor, family member, youth worker or teacher. Check out face to face professional help for information.
It can be a good idea to talk to your friend first and let them know that you’re worried about them. If you’d be ok with it, let them know that you could always go talk to someone together.
In an emergency you can also speak to the Gardaí (dial 999 or 112 if you are outside of Ireland). For more information, see what to do in an emergency.
Looking after yourself
It’s hard when someone you care about is sad or distant. Helping a friend may mean that you’re giving up on some of your needs. Try to remember to look after yourself as well.