Who do I talk to?Who do I talk to?
If there’s something on your mind, talking to someone about it could be really helpful and make you feel a lot better. When you keep things to yourself, they can get overwhelming.
Don’t carry the world on your shoulders. It’s good to get a different perspective on whatever’s troubling you and it helps release some of the tension.
How to make the decision
Deciding who to talk to can be difficult. The most important thing is that it’s someone you trust and who you know will take you seriously. There are some good questions you can help you figure out the best person to talk to. Think of all the possible people you know and ask yourself:
- Can I trust them?
- Will they give me a hard time?
- Will they make me more upset?
- Will they tell other people?
- Will they be able to help or give the support I need?
Turning to friends
It’s easy to feel like you’re totally alone when it comes to managing the stress that comes with life. Everyone at school may seem like they’re handling everything just fine, while you feel like you’re struggling alone. The news is, you’re not alone!
A lot of people have tough times and struggle every now and again. Just like you, a lot of people at school probably are too. Like you, they may be hiding it as well. Turning to a close friend about what you’re going through can help make you feel better. You never know, they may even be going through the same thing. Check out talking to a friend for more information.
Turning to family members
Sometimes you’ll go through things that you just don’t feel comfortable telling a friend about. There are times we just need mum and dad, or our big brother or sister, our super nice aunt, or awesome uncle. Usually our family wants nothing more than to be supportive.
They can help provide insight, and, you never know, could have been through a similar experience when they were your age. Check out talking to your family for more information.
Talking to someone outside the situation
If you run through these questions and decide that it shouldn’t be a family member or a friend, that’s OK. It’s not for everyone, or every situation. Sometimes speaking to someone outside the situation is easier and can really help. Check our face-to-face help for other options.
Samaritans Ireland (1850 60 90 90) are always there to listen, if you would like to talk to someone anonymously.
In the end it is up to you who you talk to. But do remember, when you’re going through a tough time, talking to someone can make a big difference.
Hi Erika
That sounds like a very difficult situation to be in and you could definitely benefit from talking to someone and it sounds like you're read too.
I'm not sure from your comment if you want to seek some help for your relationship or work through some stuff yourself on your own. If you and your partner want to try to get some support together http://www.relationshipsireland.com/ is a good place to start.
Relationships are hard work and both of you need to put the effort in to maintain them. But if you feel you need to talk to someone on your own that's perfectly ok too. You could try to check www.counsellingdirectory.ie for a counsellor in your area. There's information here http://ie.reachout.com/getting-help/face-to-face-help/ about the different types of supports available so they can help you decided what might suit you. If you would prefer to speak to someone online to work through some stuff try https://www.turn2me.org/.
You've taken a big step by reaching out and you can work through some issues and feel better.
Take care
regards
Naoise
I am having marriage problems to where when we go through a struggle I just patient and don't think of the decision before I do it I just do it and I have alot of issues that i had went through while going up and never talked to anybody about it, im lost i don't know what to do please help me i need it