Consent, sex and making tea
Feeling comfortable and in control when entering into any kind of physical relationship is hugely important.
Sometimes, we can find ourselves in situations we’re not completely comfortable with or feel pressured into taking part in something we don’t want. This can be especially true when alcohol is involved.
It is important to ensure both parties are on the same page when it comes to any kind of sexual relationship.
The best way to avoid anyone feeling unhappy within a situation is to have a conversation about it, before anything physical happens between you.
You can change your mind
Remember, you are allowed to change mind. Just because you felt something was a good idea at one stage, does not mean you should continue to stay in a situation that has become uncomfortable.
No one has the right to force you into anything you do not want to do.
If you find yourself feeling pressurised, do not be afraid to say no, or find an excuse to walk away. No matter how far you feel things have gone, you always have the right to shut things down and not go any further.
Never make assumptions
Don’t assume your partner is as on board about entering a physical relationship as you are. While your partner might seem enthusiastic, unless you have a conversation it is not always easy to tell how they feel on the inside.
It is easy to feel pressured into acting in a certain way or taking part in things because you feel other people will judge you if you don’t.
Having a conversation to make sure your partner is completely comfortable means avoiding any future repercussions that could have a negative affect on you, as well as your partner.
Talk about it
If you’re feeling like someone is pressuring you, or that you have being forced, into a sexual relationship, let someone know. Feeling like you have been forced into a physical relationship can make you find it difficult to talk about with friends or family.
Talking about what has happened with a professional can help you feel more in control again. There are lots of numbers to call and people who can support you through a tough time.
Any kind of physical relationship should be enjoyable for both parties. Taking the time to ensure both you and your partner are consenting and comfortable means you are are free to really enjoy your relationship.
Check out this video about consent that outlines it pretty clearly, by comparing to making someone a cup of tea.