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Do you speak beautiful?

The awards season has just come and gone. While many of us enjoy the style of stars at events, the coverage on social media can often take a negative spin.

Orange coffee cup, which says Note to Self, I'm Hot, on it.Tweets about bad style choices are sadly just a part of red carpet events now. But, once the carpet has been rolled up, many of us instead turn the negative focus on ourselves.

#speakbeautiful

In response to this, Dove have launched the #speakbeautiful campaign. They’re trying to encourage us to stop tweeting negative body-related tweets.

Changing how we feel and speak about ourselves and others can be very challenging. We’re often our own harshest critics, and social media offers the perfect platform to vent our frustrations.

#freebeingme

Fully aware of how damaging this is, Irish Girl Guides and Catholic Guides of Ireland have also rolled out a nationwide campaign, Free Being to unmask society’s beauty myths – that we all get sucked into from time to time. Their campaign is to help young women and to work on a positive body image and share this with their friends.

Think before you tweet

Posting on social media is easy and instant. How we respond can also be instant. There is a culture of picking people apart online for not looking absolutely perfect. A sweat stain, a bit of belly. The cheek!

When we find ourselves feeling or thinking negative thoughts about others, stop and consider before posting something. Think about the impact even a humorous post can have if it’s discussing somebody in a negative way. Even if they’re famous and you’re never going to meet them, think about the person behind it.

But also, think what it does for you. What good is it to be first off the blocks to tell someone they’re thighs are too fat for that outfit?

Be positive

The culture of “look-shaming” effects us inwardly too. To counteract all the messages we witness, instead of focusing on what you don’t like about yourself, find something instead that you do like.

Even if it’s something as simple as “I like my new nail varnish”, replacing a negative thought with a positive ones can have a huge affect on our mood. Or try to focus on things about yourself that is not about body image, like “I have lots of great friends” or “People tell me I’m funny”.

Feeling rubbish?

If you’re really struggling with negative thoughts or feelings talk to someone. Confiding in a friend or family member can make a big difference. But, if you’d prefer outside support, there’s lots of online and telephone or face to face help out there too.

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