‘Tis the season
Are you feeling jolly? We’re right in the swing of Christmas again – parties, meals, catching up with every person you ever met, before the clock strikes twelve on Christmas eve.
The nightmare before Christmas
There’s no real quick fix to such shyness, but there are things that can help. In the longer term, working on building self-esteem and constantly working on minding your mental health can be hugely beneficial.
Rockin’ around the Christmas tree
Besides, swigging eggnog and jigging around the Christmas tree with people you only half know just might not be your thing. That’s OK too. Everyone’s idea of fun is different.
When you think of it, good self-esteem helps you decide your level of sociability and what you want.
Sometimes though, it’s next to impossible to avoid social gatherings, especially if family are involved. In these instances it can be worthwhile having a bit of a coping strategy ready.
Mince pie anyone?
Things to try:
- smile – often people aren’t unfriendly, they’re simply unsure of themselves. Being the first to smile, or offer the mince pies around can go a long way to making everyone feel at ease.
- practice – like everything, practising social skills can make you better at them. Try smiling and saying hello. Try making eye contact as you chat with people you know.
- prepare your chat – thinking about things you might talk about can help to take away the pressure, and stop you feeling so on-the-spot.
While it often feels easier to stay silent, in the long run talking about something is more helpful.